You're a LIAR

WOW. Who starts a blog with what looks like a personal attack? I do. And who am I talking to?

Me. You. Your colleague. That guy who said he'd come and fix your leaking taps but you saw him having coffee instead. Everyone you know, apart from possibly two or three people on the planet who are so good and honest that the CIA has them locked up somewhere.

What on Earth am I talking about?

Let me give you an example. In the past 15 months my life has changed dramatically. I mean Dramatically. Personal life. Relationships. I own a business. I 'work' 14 hours a day. I moved house. Staring down the barrel of so many things that had the potential to see me go under. Boo freaking hoo. Happens to all of us. We all face it. Death of a family member. Partners come, partners go. Jobs come, Jobs go. Kids hate us one day, love us the next. Work sucks. Its all unpredictable. Or is it?

I tell you this because there have been times when I have wanted to blame someone or something else for what has happened to me. And at times, I have. I LIED. I LIED to myself, and if I was complaining about what happened to me, about how unfair it was the way I was treated, or that I didn't get enough support, or that people didn't share my dreams, I was lying. I made conscious decisions every day about what I was going to do or not do, and at times I've suffered for it.

So...who cares about what happened to me? Not your problem is it? You have your own crap to sort out. And that's where I know you're going to be a LIAR. Because in having these things happen to you, you're going to get the opportunity to think that other people and events control your life.

We all know how devastating the recent Tsunami in Japan was. Nobody ever deserves that. That's an act of nature, and quite simply, unavoidable.

What I'm talking about is you being broke. Having no money to do anything. Not being able to pay bills. Not being able to afford the basics. Or the luxuries. LIAR. Of course you've had the money to do things. To pay bills. To have holidays. You just blew it on shit you did not need.

Now this isn't a money lecture. It's a TRUTH lecture, but the lesson is the same.

Take for example the people who say they don't have time to exercise. 168 hours in the week, 56 hours for sleeping, 45 for work, etc etc. You have time to exercise. Don't make me do the maths on this. You have time. You simply LIE to yourself about it.

You don't have the knowledge to run a business. LIAR. Of course you do. You spent 13 bloody years at school!! What the #%&$ where you doing all that time?

You don't have any friends. LIAR. Of course you do. You don't live in a vacuum. You meet people. You work with people. You buy stuff from people. Friends are people you choose to spend time with. So choose to spend time with people.

You have everything you need. Already. Today. Right now. Stop lying to yourself about what you don't have. Think about what you do have. Practise gratitude for the things you have.

Oprah Winfrey once said that, "The person you lie most to is yourself". We all do it. We lie to ourselves that we are going to set a budget. And stick to it. We lie that we are not going to nag our partner. Or yell at our kids. Or make time for exercise. Or eat the right foods for longer than it takes to read a magazine with the latest wonder diet. Or give up the smokes.

If you are sick of LYING to yourself, come and see me. I'm not an accountant or financial planner. Those of you who know me will surely know I'm no marriage guidance counsellor. What do I know?

What you should eat. What exercise you should do. How you set a goal. How to achieve a goal. How to achieve the most unbelievable, incredible biggest hairy audacious goal you could ever imagine. How to take your big hairy audacious goal (BHAG) and GST it (add 10%). That's what I do. And I will do it for you.

That's the TRUTH.